What is Your Dream?

Everybody has a dream… the only thing is, some people don’t know what it is. They don’t know what the dream is because it has been buried under responsibilities, social norms, and expectations. If you don’t know your dream, how will you do what you love? Don’t give up… you can dig your dream out from all the ruble of life and social expectations.

How you ask? Well, since there is no magical digger machine to help you clear this rubble… I have some tips to help you dig it out with your own bare hands… and it’s really worth it.

Let’s start with something easy…. What is something you do with your spare time?Do you make websites or blogs, collect comic books or pogs, are you a history buff, a writer, a cook… what do you do?Go through your list of hobbies and make a list of the ones you love…

What are your talents? We all have a talent… you may be an expert at finding your way around an unfamiliar town, pick up languages quickly, play an instrument, can balance a spoon on your nose… everyone has something… what is your gift?Write these down on a list.

What is your work social style? Do you like working in a small intimate group, do you like to work in a big busy atmosphere, or are you a lone wolf? Is your social environment at work making you happy? If not what would you came and why?

What is your preferred physical work style? Do you like standing, or sitting behind a desk. Do you like building things, or demolishing things? Do you like hiking or traveling for work? Think about these and write down what it is you like.

What are the happiest moments of your life? Think about it. When you were a child, a teenager, a young adult… go through the phases of you and pick out the happiest times. Was it being on your grandparent’s ranch and feeding cattle? Was it fishing on the ocean? Was it working at Booster Juice in high school or being in musical theatres. Was it putting on family dinners, or helping your family set up for a big wedding? Write these things down!

Finally, go through your lists and create an idea map. Use this map to chart out the things that make you the happiest, and what you can do to do these things. If something in there really inspires you you’ve found it. If not… try to experiment with the things on your list and try to find your bliss… it may take patience and dedication… but it is worth it.

The Sky is the Limit – Always Believe that You Can Do Anything

There is nothing more common than being told you can’t do something. This is something we all hear in school and maybe earlier in life. While it is common, this doesn’t make it true. We are all capable of doing amazing things when we choose to and when we decide that we can. What was the last thing that someone told you that you couldn’t do? What happened after they told you that?

Negativity

A negative approach to anything is never a good start. If you expect something to fail, then odds are that it will. When you are sure that something is going to go badly, you may overlook the adjustments that would allow it to succeed. The same applies to other people who tell you that you can’t do something. They have decided that it is beyond them to accomplish that task so why would you be able to do it? The simple answer is that you can do it because you believe you can.

Positive Thinking

When you approach a problem with a positive attitude you are more likely to find a solution. Being optimistic about the situation has a number of benefits. You are more energetic which means you pursue potential solutions more thoroughly without becoming discouraged or annoyed. You are also able to see a variety of solutions and choose the one that seems the most likely to succeed. When you are enthusiastic about a project, you can see it from angles that might be overlooked by others. Someone that hates the task is not likely to look beyond the simplest solution which may or may not solve the problem entirely.

Availability of Information

There was a time when it was hard to get information and training. That is no longer true, as almost anything can be found online now. The access to information can no longer restrict your ability to do something. No matter what you want to do, there is a way to learn what you need and get it done. While college and other formal training may be financially difficult to attain, it is possible to learn many of these things on your own with a little internet research. While learning this way won’t end in a certification or other formal document, you would still know the information and procedures. This understanding can help you get the job you want or finish the project you are working on. Nothing is out of reach when information is widely available.

Societal Issues

While personal handicaps such as education can be overcome with the availability of information, societal restrictions that once limited the availability of certain jobs are mostly gone today. Positions in the workforce are rarely limited to a single gender and never to a particular race. Society has moved away from isolating genders and forcing them into certain roles. Women can be mothers and CEO’s while men can be stay-at-home Dads or corporate leaders. Nothing is restricted.

Work Through the Hard Times

When things start to slip or stop working well, find a new way to approach the problem. Sometimes you need to step away from the problem for a little while, to attain a new perspective. There is always a solution; you just have to be calm enough to see it. No matter what, do not panic and don’t listen to anyone who says something is impossible. If you keep working, you will find a solution. There is always more than one way to solve a problem, if the plan you were working with has fallen through, take a breath and find the next solution.

There is nothing that is impossible. If someone tells you that you can’t do something or that it is impossible to solve something, they just haven’t looked at it right. Everything has a solution and everything can be done, some tasks just require a certain outlook and willingness to think outside the normal parameters. With the availability of information and resources today, everything is possible. Information is everywhere, besides this, materials that were once only available to large manufacturers can be purchased by individuals. Nothing is impossible today! No matter what the problem is, a solution can be found and you can get it done. You just need to be willing to try and to work hard to find the solutions that you need.

Road Trip!!!

My home is in one of the most beautiful cities in California. We are located directly by the beach. We are only twenty five miles from San Diego which makes this a perfect place to live. I wanted to start a blog because I just took an awesome road trip to Santa Barbara which is about 200 miles away. I met up with my good friend Cassandra Vetchworth who is also a writer. I was so excited to see her as I haven’t seen her since school. We were literally inseparable all doing school. Being able to see her for the first time in such a long time was so awesome.


I probably overly prepared for my trip. I sat down and made a list, because I love making lists. I packed three of everything on that list. I know that’s a little over the top, but who knows what kind of crazy adventures two girls who haven’t seen each other in a while can go on? My trip was a lot of fun. As quickly as I wanted to get there I also wanted to take in all the views along the way. I saw so much beautiful countryside that I was definitely inspired to stop and write down some thoughts. I like to keep a journal of all my thoughts so when I have terrible writer’s block I can look at those thoughts and build a story from them. It has been highly effective in curing my writer’s block every time.


When I arrived in Santa Barbara I was so excited. I could barely hold all my excitement in. When I pulled up to Cassandra’s home it was absolutely stunning. I could definitely tell by how beautiful it was that she has definitely become a very successful writer. She was so excited to show me to her room and tell me everything that she had planned for us. She told me that she had schedule a tour with Grapeline Tours so we could get a little tipsy. I found that funny because we always used to go to wine tastings and it was kind of like our hobby. She showed me to my room and it was so beautiful. She had a full California king bed that I knew I wasn’t going to want to leave when it was time to go home.
When I woke up the next day Cassandra was excited and helped me pick out a nice outfit to wear on our wine tour. We went with the company Grapeline Tours and it was very professional and fun. Our tour guide Christopher was very nice and one of the most knowledgeable tour guides that I have ever met. We visited four wineries and everyone seemed better than the next. Our favourite by far was Bridlewood. It was so peaceful and the wine had such a great taste that I bought way too many bottles to bring home with me. I decided to use the excuse of giving them as gifts to my friends, but really I am going to keep “most” of them for myself. We also were able to visit a place to sample olive oils. I really love infused olive oils so this was just an exceptional added bonus for me.


After our wine tour was over we went to Opal Restaurant and Bar. I think we were a little excited because we ordered three appetisers, the black-pepper crusted ahi tuna that was seared rare and served with an amazing salad, fresh crab cakes that were absolutely delicious and came with mango salsa, and a lovely butter lettuce with Gorgonzola. Those appetisers were so amazing that I couldn’t even imagine how wonderful the main course would be. I got the homemade tomato linguine with shrimp. I loved it. However, the appetisers were definitely my favourite.


When we got home we opened a bottle of wine and shared stories of our writing struggles and successes. We played a game of Scrabble just like we did in our school days and talked excitedly about the activities we could do the next day. Cassandra decided that I should visit Lotusland. She said there had been many times in her life when she was struggling to meet deadlines that she would visit Lotusland and feel completely relaxed and free. I told her I could definitely enjoy a place like that so we decided that we would visit and then just roam around Santa Barbara and have a good time.


Lotusland ended up being one of the most amazing places I have ever visited in my entire life. I loved the story of how the grounds were cultivated by a lady by the named of Madame Ganna Walska. She spent over forty years cultivating a garden of exotic plants that today people like us can enjoy. She was a brilliant writer and they said she wrote that she was an enemy of the average. I love that phrase. Many writers have to be an enemy of the average to get ahead in life. I saw some of the most amazing cacti, bromeliads, water lilies, and ferns that I have ever seen. It definitely was something that I could think of when writing.


We spent the rest of our time visiting the city and Cassandra showing me all her favourite books shops. She took me to a very unique book store called the Book Den. I purchased several unique books there that I will definitely treasure after this visit. We finished our visit with a wonderful meal at bouchon. I had venison medallions that were beyond exquisite. She had wagyu which I tasted and think I will be ordering in the future. I was sad to leave, we still got on just like old times of course. I do wish we lived closer to each other. However, I think after she comes to visit me that I am going to go right back to visit her. There is so much more of Santa Barbara to explore.

Dream Big And Stick With Them No Matter What

Dreams are an important part of life. They allow us to hold on to things that are important to us, while also reminding us what we are working towards. Our dreams also reflect a bit about our personality and what we are hoping for. Not only are individual dreams vital but the dreams of a generation can show the direction of a society and what hopes people hold dear.

Changes

Our hopes and dreams develop as we do. The more we learn about our lives and society, the more detailed and complex our dreams become. When we are young, we dream in big terms, what we want to do when we grow up, where we want to go, and other broad concepts. As we grow and begin working and pursuing more complicated work and personal goals, our dreams develop as well. Instead of dreaming of a particular job, we dream of being able to do something particular like helping at a shelter or solve the energy crisis. We also dream of things and places that we want to see but as we grow, the reasons that we want to visit these places become just as important as the places themselves.

Identifying our Dreams

What is it that you dream about? Are most of your dreams about your work or about your family, hobbies or traveling? Our dreams can help us identify our goals and what will make us feel happy and fulfilled in our lives. Do you dream of having kids, a house or of being a CEO in your company? Maybe you dream of all of these things! By understanding what we dream and hope for, we are better able to make decisions that will make us happy with our life.

Our dreams can also help us adjust our focus if we have become distracted from what is truly important to us. If you dream of having children, it is important that you take time out for your spouse and that you maintain a strong relationship and build a household that the children can thrive in. If your dreams are work related, it is important to work hard and work to improve your training and skills so that you are prepared to move up the ladder at work. If you have big dreams involving both work and family, it is important that you think through the implications of both. This will help you see the plans that will allow you to fulfil all of your dreams and will help you work towards them. Everything is possible with a little planning.

Following our Dreams

Never let someone tell you that you can’t achieve your dreams. Move towards your goan, one hurdle at a time. Dreams about daily life and travel are only restricted by our ability to work towards them. We can choose to make changes that will move our daily life towards our goals. We can also make plans and save, to allow us to reach our dreams of travelling or exploring. No matter what the dream is, there is a way to plan and prepare for it.

Hold on to your Dreams

No matter what your dream is, you have to hold on to it. Even if it becomes something that you can do as a hobby outside of your typical work, your dream is important. Our dreams reflect our passions and goals. When you pursue things you are passionate about, every aspect of your life will be improved. You will be focused on finding resources and time for your passion and maybe work towards making it a source of income so you can work on it all of the time.

Even when we have not reached our dreams, they help us work through the trials of each day. When you can look at your work or accomplishments for the day and see that whatever you struggled with has helped you move towards your goal, it encourages you to continue. Each step moves us closer to holding our dreams.

Dreams are important for everyone. Never let someone tell you that your dream is impossible. If you think about your dreams in a reasonable way, you can establish a way to reach it. This might involve working towards a particular job or saving for a certain trip. It all depends on the specifics of your dreams. Regardless of what your dreams are, identifying them and working towards them makes each day easier to face. Every trial becomes a challenge that we can face and overcome in pursuit of our dreams.