You deserve better

Women and men alike can be in toxic relationships. This can be with a significant other (S.O), a friend, a family member, a colleague or a boss. For those of you who are in some sort of unhealthy relationship… there is one thing you need to know… you deserve better:

You deserve better than being with a person who doesn’t value you as much as they value themselves. All relationships are two way streets, they are supposed to have fairly equal power dynamics… while a boss or an elder family member may have a more revered role, you both deserve the same respect, the same treatment… if that is not the way it is working than its not a real relationship at all…

You deserve better than down talk… that’s right, I’m telling you that you should be treating yourself with love and respect. Talking S**t to yourself is not okay, it’s abusive and you deserve better than that! Practice loving yourself.

You deserve better than chasing someone or fighting for their attention. All that running and fighting has got to be exhausting… if they can’t turn around and see you for all the amazing things you are than they don’t deserve to be your S.O, your friend, or in a relationship with you period… Ice it!

You deserve better than excuses.  No one likes a lot of hot air, so stop allowing it in your life. Excuses are like rear ends… everyone has one…

You deserve better than waiting around for someone. Im not talking about… you made plans and someone is coming to get you and they were caught in traffic so they are late. I am saying, don’t wait for someone to make up their mind about you… we only live once, so why waste that time waiting for someone? We don’t need mind games, so if someone is leading you on, humming and haw-ing  about what they think about you… do you really need them? It’s as simple as this… they choose you or they lose you!

You deserve better than going back to a wrong relationship. A lot of relationships end for very good reasons, but breaking up grief is similar to grieving a death (whether we are talking about an S.O, a friendship, or even cutting ties with a family member). This is why when it gets to some of the most painful points people get back together when they maybe shouldn’t. Trust yourself, and analyze the situation before jumping into something that will hurt you again.

You deserve better than repeated rejection… I really hope I don’t need to go into this any further…

You deserve better than being treated with disrespect. You deserve respect, you deserve to be treated with such… this means you don’t deserve to be objectified, or used.

You deserve better than abuse, cheating, or lies.  Abuse can be physical, verbal, mental, emotional, sexual… you don’t deserve ANY of it. You don’t deserve being cheated on, lied to, or manipulated… this all can cause so much harm to the heart and soul. It’s good to trust your instincts… especially if you are seeing red flags. I know that this is so hard to let go of any relationship, even an unhealthy one, but  excuses you make are like quick sand… they make it harder to get out… the sooner you grab a vine and pull yourself out the better you will be.

You deserve to be happy…